I saw a quote recently that spoke to me: "It's okay to be angry, but it's never okay to be cruel."
Depending on one's temperament and the situation, anger and cruelty can meld into one emotion.
Let's define the two words:
The definitions show that being angry keeps you in your feelings while being cruel has causes you to act on those feelings.
We all get angry over something our spouse does. That's natural. However, whenever we start to inflict pain and suffering on our mate, we've crossed the line.
Of course, pain and suffering includes any and all physical abuse. It also includes anything your spouse considers to be painful to him/her physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, etc.
You may be thinking that your playbook has become severely limited if your spouse gets to decide what he/she considers pain and suffering. But, that's the way it should be. Your mate ALWAYS gets to be the judge of what he/she considered painful.
Bear these things in mind the next time you get angry:
Kevin B. Bullard, Marriage Works! Founder