Dr. Phil is renowned for asking folks what actions they're taking, then responding with, "How's that working for you?"
I want to augment Dr. Phil's question slightly, and put it a marriage context.
Please read & answer these questions:
I could go on all day, but I think you get the picture.
You're either making your marriage better or worse—it's never parked in neutral. Take stock of how your behaviors (spurred by your beliefs) are working for your marriage.
Ladies: How often are you talking with your husband, and instead of listening, he's solving?
Men: How often do you get frustrated when you know the problem (and the solution), but your wife just won't listen to you?
Ladies: Your husband might be on to something, so give him a shot.
Husbands: even if you are onto something, your wife would prefer if you listened without fixing.
After all, it's not about the nail.
You know where this is headed.
If you are addicted to your phone (or any other device that is taking time away from your spouse on a consistent basis), I challenge you to give it a break this weekend.
Perhaps your spouse has been telling you that you always have your face buried in your device ... updating your Facebook status, seeing what's trending on Twitter, pinning a photo, or reading messages from those Marriage Works! people (ouch!)
Kevin B. Bullard, Marriage Works! Founder