I strive really hard to make sure that the material we post on the Marriage Works! blog and social media is marriage related. Nine times out of 10, I succeed. This is one of those times when I'm going to fail, and do it on purpose.
I remember being at a football game at the University of Virginia in November 1996 as a member of the Marching Tar Heels. An ill-fated pass by Chris Keldorf was intercepted, and run back for a 96-yard touchdown. That was the beginning of the end for my beloved Tar Heels, who led 20-3 late in the third quarter. Losing that game cost us a trip to the Fiesta Bowl. It was painful.
However, that pain cannot even be compared to the fresh pain that has come from Charlottesville.
It's terribly sinful that white supremacists and KKK & Neo-Nazi members can have such hatred for others whose skin color and ideals don't match theirs. But, just as it's sinful for them, it's also sinful for me to have hatred in my heart towards them for their attitudes & actions.
While I've not physically harmed anyone, the scripture says that if I hate my brother in my heart, I'm a murderer (1 John 3:15). The events of the weekend, and the aftermath, facilitated my booking, conviction, and imprisonment.
As I come to terms with what I saw, and try to explain the ugliness to my children; I'm asking the Lord to help me remember that first and foremost, I am a Christian. While it's normal for me to feel some kind of way because of the hatred directed towards my race and other minorities, I believe it's essential that I allow the Spirit of Christ to help me rise above it, and follow the word given in 1 Peter 2:21-23:
For [as a believer] you have been called for this purpose, since Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you may follow in His footsteps. He committed no sin, nor was deceit ever found in His mouth. While being reviled and insulted, He did not revile or insult in return; while suffering, He made no threats [of vengeance], but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges fairly.
My thoughts on this topic are still in formation, but this is where I stand today.
I pray all of us who call ourselves followers of Jesus will allow the Spirit of Christ to lead us in our interactions with others, especially those who are hell-bent on being antagonistic against us.
Kevin B. Bullard, Marriage Works! Founder