I continue to be amazed at (and grateful for ) all the positive comments spouses like you are leaving. I'm seeing stories of how people are ready to give up, but are hanging on. I'm reading stories of how spouses have changed, and marriages are being restored. I'm reading stories of how people are re-investigating what the Bible has to say about marriage ... their marriage.
One quality underpins each story I read, and can be the deciding factor of whether a marriage stands or falls: commitment.
In layman terms, commitment is being all in—even when it's hard, unpopular, or annoying. Even when it seems foolish, hurtful, embarrassing, or insulting. Commitment means you're there, come what may.
My Willie knows what this is all about. He was ready to break off the marriage with her because of constant quarreling, hurt feelings, jacked up communication, and disaffection.
But, to Willie's credit, his commitment to God and his vows were strong enough to help him love Brittaney—even when he felt like she didn't deserve it and he didn't want to love.
I was honored to officiate Willie and Brittaney's vow renewal ceremony, and was overjoyed to hear that they're expecting their first child this fall.
Willie and Brittaney are examples of what can happen when you commit to God, your spouse, and vows. I understand that every situation does not turn around like theirs. However, make it your goal to commit yourself to loving and being the best spouse you can be.
You commit, and watch God help you.