Today's question comes from Johnny:
When your wife moves out to another place and she says that the reason she moved out was to get your attention? But I believe she moved out for freedom or another man.
Ladies: How often are you talking with your husband, and instead of listening, he's solving?
Men: How often do you get frustrated when you know the problem (and the solution), but your wife just won't listen to you?
Ladies: Your husband might be on to something, so give him a shot.
Husbands: even if you are onto something, your wife would prefer if you listened without fixing.
After all, it's not about the nail.
The first step is easy. The second step, not so much.
In every day life, the first step could be something taking a customer's order, showing up to a meeting, committing to a good habit, or accepting a job offer. Those are pretty easy to do. Following-through on those things—the second step—is where the challenge begins.
What are you fighting over? Something serious or something based on preference?
Bob was unfaithful to Lisa. He did it because he said he was bored in the marriage, needed a change, and was acting out of character. While there was no doubt that he hurt Lisa, he was not driven by the desire to hurt her.
Lisa was unfaithful to Bob. She did it because she was hurt, vindictive, and intended for Bob to feel the intense pain of betrayal that she felt.
Did Lisa's plan work or did she simply embolden Bob to continue his affair since she was involved in one herself?
Today is the day of the much ballyhooed Great American Eclipse. For the first time in almost 100 years, the total solar eclipse will be visible from cost to coast. Without a doubt, that makes today's occurrence a once-in-a-lifetime astronomical treat.
Eclipses excite scientists, and make us all childlike with wonder. In addition, eclipses spawn all sorts of myths, like these:
Just as there are myths accompanying eclipses, there are also myths that will keep you from forgiving your mate if you choose to believe them.
A year ago today, 30 students at West Point were injured in varying degrees after a fight broke out on campus.
One cadet suffered a broken nose, one sustained a fractured cheek, and 24 were diagnosed with concussions.
This violent fight wasn't a one-off circumstance. It had actually occurred annually since 2001. One might ask how the Academy could allow this type of fight to continue year after year without stepping in.
The reason: it was a pillow fight. Yes, a fight between cadets swinging pillows.
This is a quick lesson in how the little things have the ability to cause a lot of damage in your marriage.
I saw a quote recently that spoke to me: "It's okay to be angry, but it's never okay to be cruel."
Depending on one's temperament and the situation, anger and cruelty can meld into one emotion.
How many times have you called yourself "helping" your mate, only to have him/her consider your help an unwanted nuisance?
It can be hard for us to comprehend that our spouse doesn't want our help, after all, we are the greatest thing since sliced bread. Still, it happens.
Our help can rub our mate the wrong way for several reasons, including the following ...
One of my favorite verse is Proverbs 14:4, which says "Where no oxen are, the crib is clean: but much increase is by the strength of the ox."
I like this verse so much because it speaks to the simplicity of the single life, yet the additional harvest that comes with being married.
Kevin B. Bullard, Marriage Works! Founder