Dr. Phil is renowned for asking folks what actions they're taking, then responding with, "How's that working for you?"
I want to augment Dr. Phil's question slightly, and put it a marriage context.
Please read & answer these questions:
I could go on all day, but I think you get the picture.
You're either making your marriage better or worse—it's never parked in neutral. Take stock of how your behaviors (spurred by your beliefs) are working for your marriage.
Kevin B. Bullard, Marriage Works! Founder